Sunday, February 19, 2012

Finding the right one for you - Book Review

This is perhaps the best book I've read on dating.  In Finding the Right One for You, H. Norman Wright methodically, and matter of factly leads the reader through questions to consider and points to remember if they are thinking about dating and marriage.  It's impressive really. He addresses questions others I've read simply ignore.  And he presents everything in a nice logical order.  Perhaps what what really sets Wright apart here is that he places a large emphasis on knowing and not so much doing.  Or, to be more specific, he emphasizes knowing yourself very well, rather than just rushing into the dating scene. He also places a heavy emphasis on the many warnings signs and red flags to beware of in people and relationships.

This is all easier said than done. What I mean is that you can't just sit here and think, "ah, yes watch out for crazies and I need to know what I want. Great, off we go."  One really needs to work through the book and the questions he asks. And when he talks about the red flags ask if they perhaps apply to the reader as well (and not just the other party in relationship!).

A lot of credit to Wright for emphasizing the difficulty of an intimate relationship. It's not all sunshine and roses and he is clear about that.  Near the end of the book when talking about compatibility he says that it's a myth and you basically need to work to become compatible once you are married. He also spends quite a bit of time talking about the different facets of the Myers-Briggs personality type letters and how the opposites are truly opposites.

This book is well worth reading.  He writes from a Christian perspective but doesn't try to make the Bible write the book (or method) for him.  You will end up learning a lot from this book and marking it up quite a bit should you read it.

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